So we have been looking into getting a smaller used vehicle. I started looking around and have come across several that I like! And then I found the Nissan Rouge! And its the one! The one I just HAVE to have! LOL So we went to Royal Nissan with the idea of looking at some used Rouges. A very nice salesman came out and asked us if he could help us. He immediately started pushing a BRAND NEW CAR! And not a just a Rouge he wanted us to drive every new car they had. I told him many times that we were not interested in NEW we wanted USED and that I was not even sure if I would be buying a car that day. Im the type of person that likes to sleep on a decision before I make it when it comes to finances. He said that was fine and that he had nothing to do for the rest of the day! Long story short we got there at 10 am and left at 7 pm! He almost physically did not let us leave. I came the closet I have ever been to buying something that I kept saying I did not want to buy! A brand new 2012 Nissan Rouge. He had us all the way down to the only thing we had to do was sign our name on this little line and take the key. I popped into reality at that moment and told him that I just couldn't make this large of a purchase. He asked me what else I could possibly have to purchase that would cost this much and that buying this car would not affect me. ( as if he knows me personally) He had been saying all day yall don't have anything better to spend this much money on, it might as well be a car. Well finally I told him actually we do. We have fertility cost that will be hitting us hard this year and I just cant responsibly buy this car knowing the type of financial struggle we are going to face this year. And do you know what this man (who has a ten week old baby at home along with a three year old) told me!?! And I quote "Having a baby is just not that important" He actually said those words to me! I became angry and told him he had no idea what its like to scrape yourself off the floor every month for two years with having a baby being the most important thing in your life. Now I know he is a salesman and really wanted to make this sell. But being plain out insensitive caught me off guard. I let my anger get the best of me and ended up leaving in tears. He said ugly things to us and I just left out to get in the car. He then actually put a pen in my husbands hand and told him just sign the paper she is upset now but she will be happy after you just buy it for her. Sometime you have to do things behind your wife's back to make them happy! My husband told him "you don't know my wife" lol I just could not believe this guy! If i had $25,000 cash I would not buy a car from this guy! I had to share this! Its just ridiculous how insensitive some can be when it comes to infertility. And this is why most dealing with infertility are scared to share there story! Fear of the mean, insensitive, uneducated comments others can make! After cooling off I realize that this guy probably has no idea what type of struggle is it dealing with infertility. And with the fact that he told us he has two children we know that he does not know what its like to want a child so badly. Although I let anger get the best of me at first I pray for this guy. To give him understanding of the struggles others go through in life and the knowledge to be thankful for the blessings that came so easily to him.
Anyways! I know that from the start I have talked about starting a support group for others out there dealing with infertility. Today at church my mom was asked if some of the ladies could contact me to pray for me which gave me an idea. I think that I want to have a get together at my church. We would meet, eat, talk, pray, and have a small devotional. I would like for it to be where anyone who is dealing with infertility or has dealt with infertility to come and meet. And not just us infertile but our mothers/mother in laws too if they would like to come. It affects them too! If you would like to share your story you could or just listen. It will be an opportunity to hear success story's and relate to those going through what you are going through. If you don't want to share of course you would not have to. I have always said that its good to talk to others about infertility and not keep it bottled up but its just something else to talk to those who are in your shoes. Its almost like a sisterhood! You just KNOW what they are feeling! It will be a great opportunity to have some great ladies praying for you and a great group of girl to become friends with, to help you through those days that are almost unbarable! I have not set a date or talk with someone to lead the bible study but if you would be interested in coming please message me on facebook or by text if you have my number or you can email me ash_potater@yahoo.com
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